Behind Closed Doors- A Rant

ABUSE-- Some people think you're making a mountain out  of  a molehill.  But no.  You're making a mountain out of a mountain.  Just because they've never seen the person behave that way, then it must not be true.  Just because you don't see any broken bones or bruises, you can't be feeling THAT much pain.  Right?  Your friend or loved one must be delusional or making it up or exaggerating.  But they're NOT.  ALL the things they said are TRUE, and you probably haven't even heard half of it.  If you'd ever been in that situation, you'd KNOW that the psychological bruises sometimes NEVER heal.

But when you don't believe them, or worse yet, go to the abuser to console them, you are betraying a trust and doing so much damage to the psyche of the person who entrusted you with their pain.  Now there's even MORE pain. 

Back in the day, things were kept behind closed doors.  The abused were supposed to suffer in silence.  Alone.  But now, they tell everyone to SPEAK UP.  But when you do, they say SHHHH… you shouldn't talk about that out in the open.  Still… the abuser gets more concern than the injured person.

People see the shout for help and say "Shhh".  Then run to the abuser, and say "There there".  What the hell??